Memes are very popular in the world of social media. As a society we are inundated with memes regularly. For most of us, just minimal time spent on any form of social media will present contact with a meme based on what/who we follow, like, etc. I notice many of the memes on my threads are related to self improvement and growth. I want to make sure that it is understood; these memes are achievable.
This sounds like a duh statement, but in reality, not so much. In reality, most people lack or feel they lack the life they seek from these memes. They post with the hope of it someday, somehow being their life. That “new year, new me” mentality, getting all hype on the idea that, this year, will be my year. But while they post, and create threads that are basically online vision boards, they are forgetting that very statement. The memes are achievable.
Instead, many are looking at these memes as something like the lotto. They may get lucky, and change may fall into their lap. Suddenly they are going to run into that better man or woman. Suddenly they are going to lose that weight and start to eat better. Suddenly they will be a boss at managing their finances. The mistake here is not actually looking at some of these memes as a goal, but rather a wish.
Here are some examples:
How to live this meme? Well, I’d rather task you to think about some things. For the relationship you imagine it seems as if this is a mature person with stability, who does not have outside drama coming into the relationship, and places family first. In order to have this, who must you be, and who must the person you are wanting to be with, be? You want this, but you still give time to your ex that is not necessary. You are scared to take time to yourself to get to know who you are and what actually drives and fills you up. You haven’t felt as if you deserved better than the person you are messing with.
If you aren’t with someone, are you being selective enough? You want this, but you haven’t gotten comfortable enough with yourself to be able to say no to the riff raff long enough. You want this, but during your down time you do not work on increasing your financial knowledge. You want this, but you don’t want to invest in time or money for education or even your own business plan. You want this, but still try to keep up with the joneses. You want this, but allow this person you are with to remain jobless more than 6 months without even trying to go to a day labor place. You want this, but you don’t have a plan to get there; you choose the things that are not getting to your goal and you do know it. If you do have a plan, you are not consistent in the steps to get there. If you feel you have the ability to prolong your own progress then you should at least find ways to cope with your discomfort while accepting that these desires are not priorities, because many of them are more in reach that you think.
How do you live this life? You can start by looking at why you could be happy with where you currently are in life. You have blessing right here in front of you, some you asked for just a few years ago. Remember, one day you couldn’t wait to be where you are right now. How are you living the life you thought about back then. If you want to be happy where you are in life then, you need to learn to be happy with where you are in life. Yep, I wrote that right.
If you want to be happy, take a good look at what is not making you happy and start the steps to change it, and while doing that, be happy about the things that are going right, right now. Be happy with the things that you DO HAVE. The happier you are with them, the easier it will be to work on changing the things you do not like, and attract the things you do like. If you are waiting to obtain something else in order to be happy, then you will attract more of that…”waiting to obtain something” to make you happy.
With you, as soon as you get what you thought was going to make you happy you will learn that there are downsides to whatever that thing is. You will then want to focus on changing those downsides so much, thinking that improving those things will for sure bring the happiness. And you will then get what you have been working for, only for the cycle to continue.
NO! You must learn to be happy at every stage. This is not to say you shouldn’t feel disappointment or desire improvement; you can’t really help that. But those are simply signals to alert you to the need for changes or enhancements, and to the area of the body, mind, spirit that now needs tending to. While that part is under construction, you must learn to celebrate where you are now, or you negatively affect the energy and esteem needed to push for better.
You want that skin to glow and to love your new place? Do you know how much of that can change in a month if you decided you were worth it, and not waiting on some phenomenon to come along and make it happen? You can start right now deciding to replace chips with fruit and soda or juice with more water. You can start with appreciating the place you have now, even if you are just renting a room.
That room is a space to practice gratitude with, being thankful for having a place with a roof. That is a place to learn to be happy so you can truly appreciate the house that is coming to you. That is a place to learn decorating skills by working to make the most of your space. When you do upgrade, you are less likely to be out here trying to keep up with the joneses, still wishing to live like the meme you posted. You need to ask yourself, what thought about me do I need to change that will change my actions? What do I need to change to increase the chance o having what I want and becoming who I want to be.
Because we know it can happen. It’s so funny; we listen to stories of those that have done what we want to do and they started out just like ours. Some with more, or less, advantage. But they were in their car, living room, work elevator, midst of an argument, wherever, when they decided that they were the priority; and that by most means necessary, they were going to make it happen. They were going to make eating right the priority. They will not post about those meal preppers that discuss how tired they were when they prepped, they will Be the person posting about how tired they were. They will not post someone’s weight loss success picture, 20 lbs later in 3 months, but it will be their picture they were posting.
And that meant that behind the scenes of the pictures they are posting, there was action. They gave up certain things you think you can’t give up. They sacrificed going out as much and made sure they paid themselves first in savings or investments before spending money elsewhere. They committed to something that was not a part of their regular routine. If you keep following that regular routine, you will get the same thing. So, one thing, Just one thing is all that you need ask of yourself. Commit to that and see how capable you are of living this meme.
Imaging living this meme and doing some of the things to help get you there. Like, imagine knowing that you were able to hold out for the right one. Imagine, that you were so secure with your self worth you were more proud to say you were single than still messing with people who treated you wrong. Imagine, being so secure in letting people go that did not reciprocate, and sending messages to the universe that you are not here to play and are ready for those that come with the real. Imagine, having spent time away from all relationships to heal, think about what you have to offer, and only entertain those that operated on that level.
Imagine being so healed from the negative that you knew how to handle your insecurities in a relationship and you were able to recognize the signs of toxicity early on. Imagine seeing those signs and being comfortable leaving at first sight instead of being scared of being alone again or having people question your decisions. If you can imagine, you might then wonder what you have to do to get there. It’s as mentioned before, learn to love yourself enough to say no to what is not adding to your life. You have enough on your growth list to work on that you do not need to add convincing people of your value and need to treat you right.
Get comfortable with the fact that everyone who has something in common with you, who is cute, who winks at you, who is persistent in the dM’s and all of that, is not necessarily for you. When you aren’t rushed or pressed for love, you are able to sit back and make more calculated decisions because you aren’t wide eyed and geeked for the first person who comes along spitting promises they won’t be able to keep longer than 3 months.
Imagine being loved the way you love and being able to recognize it and accept it. Imagine knowing that you were worth it and didn’t have to sabotage it for fear of it not working out. Imagine knowing that you are worthy either way, so you can walk through that relationship in confidence; making decisions with logic over emotion. Imagine what that takes? I can tell you it’s more than a prayer and saying God did it. Faith without works is dead and God is within. So, what actions are you taking to be the person able to recognize proper love? And what are your barriers?
Are you still forgiving things that are a sign of abuse, or walking away understanding your worth? Are you still blaming yourself for everything and refusing to forgive yourself for mistakes? Conversely, are you unable to take responsibility for your actions and role in any situation? Part of loving yourself is not only knowing your worth and value, but knowing that you are still susceptible to mistakes and are able to own up to them. Not doing this prevents growth, and isn’t that the whole message?
Live this meme by asking yourself, what do you need to balance making yourself the priority while cultivating the relationships you would like to have. There are so many barriers to becoming the person you want to be and achieving your goals that you may or may not be aware of. Some of them are as simple as the time spent with friends or on netflix. Others may be time we are unnecessarily dedicating to work or social media. We throw ourselves into these other tasks as escapes or even rewards, while spitting the same gripe each and every year. In order for whatever it is you want to change to change, only you can do it, but you actually have to CHOOSE to.
This shit is so hard to write because honestly, I struggle with this. I struggle with knowing that I choose to spend time I could put to fitness goals into other tasks and I know it. For the most part, I get things done when it comes to business needs. But when it comes to wanting to write more and especially be more active, I know that I have not allocated my time well enough to accomplish these things. So it’s almost like, what am I griping for? What am I looking for when I say how much I wish something could happen, when it can actually happen? And I ask you that same question. What are you looking for when you say again this year that you want to accomplish something that you have chosen not to allocate time to consistently?…..
So with this one, live it by actually choosing yourself first. Just like you schedule that watch party for that show or that client callback that you just can’t miss; schedule that time to work out. Schedule that time to work on your book (or blog, wink). Take time to research additional streams of income to help reach your goals. Say no to things that interfere with the time set aside for yourself (within reason), because you’re life is the first business over anything else. Others will take you only as seriously as you do. Take time for therapy. Take time to meditate, cry, regroup. Be all about you on a regular basis just as much as you are about others.
Schedule, you. Without kids if you have them, without family, without friends, without obligations, and focus on yourself with a purpose. The person you want to be didnt get there by just posting memes on social media. She began limiting her time there and giving it to herself to accomplish her goals, maybe even quicker than 10 years.
But it starts with a shift in mindset followed by immediate and consistent action. It also takes loving yourself enough to know that no matter you circumstances, you can have that meme-able life. You can wake up 10 years from now not only next to someone you love, and with the financial stability you once thought about; with improved credit; with glowing skin; You can Netflix and chill married style. But how, when you aren’t loving and appreciating yourself in that way now; how, sway?
Having that life 10 years from now means that today you have to start a completely new routine and work on changing that mindset. It means you have to understand you have to let a lot of things go about your past and present in order to have that ideal future. That means you need to face your fears now, whatever they may be, so that you are not prolonging that process. This life is a journey, and although it will be nice to wake up to a better relationship after 10 years of the same thing; to your job surprising you with a huge raise and bonus with your mediocre effort; or to tearing the covers off to a six-pack and bigger butt without any diet or exercise changes, you won’t.
You will have to let go of the toxic friends, girlfriend, boyfriend, and even family. You will have to get comfortable, with being alone and learning who you are as this will likely be one of the best avenues to your success. For many people who don’t progress in certain areas of their lives, the cause is rooted in fear. Depending on the situation, that fear could be due to many things, including simple lack of knowledge. To access this information and to release ourselves from any ties that bind, you must feel that you are worth it.
When you know that you are, you will begin to act accordingly. I for one, can’t wait to see the glow up. Take your inspirational goals meme, post it up, and ask yourself what you will need to do to accomplish the first bullet point. Think small and basic needs first, and then you can build. If you need help with more actionable steps for your goals, feel free to reach out for coaching package information and we can create a plan based on your unique needs!
Whew that was a long one. I will work on that, maybe, lol!
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